Asking questions not only lets you learn about someone else, but it shows them that you’re interested in getting to know them more. We’ve all endured that one guy or girl who won’t stop talking about themselves, and so we can probably agree that it’s nice to have the attention shone on both parties. However, it can also be difficult to stop yourself going the other way entirely, and turning a chat into an interview, especially with online dating. So here’s a guide to help you with fun, useful things to ask and say, without bombarding your potential love with question after question or ‘me, me, me’ vibes.

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Obviously you’ll want to find out the basics first, but luckily this will all be displayed on the person’s profile anyway. Go right ahead and check out their name, age, location, their uni and their appearance. You can view bios too, and even video uploads, but what you really want to do is get chatting to them and check them out for yourself, right? Only this way can you introduce yourself and see just how well you get along. Plus, instant messaging usually allows for more honest responses, with little time to think about or plan what you say.

After the initial introductions, here are some fab get-to-know-you basics to help you kick start something awesome:

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? How about 10 years?

What 3 things can you not live without?

Who’s your biggest inspiration?

What’s your favourite body part?

What kind of music are you into?

How do you relax?

What are you most grateful for?

What’s your greatest fear?

Favourite food?

What movie have you watched time and time again?

What are you most proud of?

Favourite joke?

Phrasing questions in fun ways can spice up any conversation, while also letting you both share your feelings, passions and views. Here are some more creative questions for you to play with…

If you could be any fictional character, who would you be, and why?

Quick: name an animal!

If you could have lunch with 2 famous people from any era, who would you choose, and why? What’s one thing you would you ask them?

If money were no object, what job would you choose?
Where’s Waldo?

Mummy’s boy/girl or daddy’s boy/girl?

What drink would you order for me at a bar?

You are hiding something in your office desk drawer – what is it?

I say ‘travelling,’ you say…?

What’s been your favourite Christmas present of all time?
What would you name your autobiography?

You’re in a time machine. Which date would you visit and why?